Sunday, November 6, 2011
Holy Covenant UMC
Rev. Matthew Johnson, preaching
Matthew 5:1-12
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When I was a kid, cemeteries were a bit frightening to me. Maybe they were for some of you, too. I hung around with some friends who liked to tell ghost stories, and they’d often coerce me to make late night trips deep into the headstones. They’d make up stories about the people buried below us; spinning yarns about murder and mayhem committed by people with old names like Tobias and Gertrude. They’d use a spooky voice to share how the spirits of Toby and Gert could leave the ground and inhabit us like demons. Although I was certain (well, fairly certain) that what they said wasn’t true, their stories stripped me of just enough of my curiosity that I never wanted to find out the stories of any of those strangers buried there.
When I’d visit my grandparents at the beginning of the summer — around memorial day — we’d often go to lay flowers at the graves of grandma’s brothers who fought in World War II. They were people I never met. And while you’d think that would have been a positive experience, I always walked gingerly, partially afraid of what may emerge from the ground, but mostly because of the way my grandmother screamed the first time I stepped on an area in front of a headstone in her presence. You would have thought a hand freed itself from the earth and began untying my shoe. But she was just concerned about my disrespecting the graves. “We don’t walk on people,” she said, guiding me around the back of the headstone. Imagine my confusion and fear the first time I saw a grave dug on the backside of the stone. Oddly, I remember these things, but I don’t remember hearing anything in those moments about my great uncles who were buried there. Her forlorned look told me they obviously still had a place in my grandma’s heart. But I never asked.
Even when I was a young adult, the graveyards were unnerving. I was happy when the ones along side the rural roads wouldn’t catch my attention because the thicket had overtaken them. Out of sight, out of mind and all.
I have no memory of going to the graveside of any of funerals I attended for interment.
My first year of ministry things changed by necessity. I had to overcome my nagging uncomfort. In my first week, I officiated two funerals. I had gone from avoiding graveyards to being in them all the time. This reality was partially because I served two aging congregations, but also because I had quickly become the funeral director’s go-to guy for those who had died unconnected and without a congregation. In those first years, I was standing at the head of a casket or next to an urn at least three times a month. This was when I came to the conclusion that God loves irony. A lot. This was also when I first started paying attention to the stories the dead left behind … the mournful lamentations of family without family, the joy of a legacy left, the anguish of things left unsaid or done, the reclamation of meaning in a name. Sometimes I would hear them in meetings and prayer before the services. Sometimes I would hear them over potato salad after the services. And sometimes I would hear them in raw moments during the services. (more…)